Hidden Lies.

 Welcome once more, this is a new interesting tag for everyone and I would like to delve for I think it's very interesting for each human being. I want to talk and explain, in my humble opinion, what are those Hidden Lies that we have ever swallowed. 

Hidden Lies will be from now on in my blog, a changing way of our lives, if you want to. You know, throughout my life I have ever repeated the same statements over and over like everyone without thinking what they mean but, two years ago I began to change. I began to see the life in a different way and what I saw as something normal I began to saw them as something wrong. I wake up from a long long dream about those lies around me and I would like to explain what will be the fundamental part of those Hidden Lies that I will explain to you throughout these weeks.

My experience about this wake up comes from hurts and wounds of my heart. It comes by hours and hours keeping a conversation with my husband, also God himself speaks to me with his Holy Word. I always end telling “Thank God” for everything, because you’ve opened my eyes and see those lies I have always eaten without caring of it.  I want to explain what provoke those lies, what is inside us. Everything starts within. 

The human being has not the tendency to do good. It’s not in our nature being good in a natural and unconditional way. If the human being would have the tendency to do good, it would not be an effort to forgive, step on our ego, have empathy or be merciful. 

Doing the right thing is an effort. Think about each thing you make throughout your day, each one goes followed a thought which not go to your brain. It goes straight to your heart where you can’t hear it because you accepted as something normal since forever and it is telling you that:
* Behind that dollar you gave to the vagrant you’re waiting for being seen by someone.

* You’re getting married with the love of your life because you love him crazily, but you’re waiting for the same love in return.

* You gave to someone a piece of advice waiting for that advice turns into an order because you are right and he’s not. 

* The sweater you made to your son with your hands is rewarded by worships to your job.  

It could be a crazy thing and it can be you want to refuse to keep on reading this because it makes you feel selfish and you can tell me that you didn’t do anything waiting for a reward, but if after walking all day long showcasing your son and the night cames over you without receiving a reward for that sweater you made you feel a little upset… you can ignore it or not, but in the end, the truth is you were waiting for someone and that feeling comes to you for something. 

The human being is a selfish being and when we don’t have that we want we get angry. Watch yourself and every time you get angry, ask to yourself these two questions. What did I want? And what am I didn’t get? These two both answer will give you a selfish answer. 

The human being works by “desires” from our heart which take control over our existence and define our self-way. Those desires are what lead you to take one decision or another throughout your day. Listen, you don’t do anything if you don’t want to, including: “I don’t want to do that but I have to” or “ I didn’t want to, but I didn’t stop myself” These statements are excuses and we use them for defending ourselves and we don’t understand that in the deepest core of our heart, we wanted to do this or that. “I can’t stop smoking” What does happen here? That person can stop smoking, but smoking is giving him something that if he would stop, he should find that something in another thing. In this case, it could be calm his anxiety. I’m telling you that when this person finds another way to calm his anxiety, he will stop smoking. The only thing we have to do is replace one thing with another. In other cases, smoking is important to him, but when he finds something more important to do like: her wife want to get divorce because of his smoking or the doctor say to him that he’s very ill and it’s essential to quit smoking or something like that, then he will stop smoking because he will find something more important for replacing his smoking. So, he can stop smoking but he doesn’t want to do now. At the end, everything we do is because we want to. It’s our desire; you are the only one who decides what way to choose. Nobody makes you smoking because you could say NO in the first place, but you didn’t. 

There’s a lie behind every wrong choice we do and we swallowed for we wanted to get something for ourselves as a benefit and that lie is born from an improper desire. Often, this is the engine of our egoism leading us toward wrong decisions that we regret later, well, if your selfish way lets you see you are wrong. Those improper or sinful desires are a disguise themselves because they want us to believe that they are necessary and deceive us. They are our selfish way wanting to feed its hungry just with selfish benefits. Why do we have those improper desires and sin later? The Lord teaches us this:

Keep your heart with all diligence,

For out of it spring the issues of life. (Proverbs 4:23)

For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. (Matthew 15:19)

The heart is deceitful above all things,

And desperately wicked;

Who can know it? (Jeremiah 17:9) 

When you see that gossip comes to you, you let your door open and wait to be in a perfect circle of persons just for raise your voice and say between lines that you would never do that thing because it’s wrong. So you just want to show to the others how perfect you are and for highlight our righteousness in front everybody. Don’t you call that egoism? How many of you think about forgiveness and mercy as first thought when someone hurt you? No, we only think of ourselves and demand this or that before fixing that problem with that person. Quite far away are the good choices when you are just thinking about revenge, hatred or hold rancour without thinking of these thoughts might destroy you. The good ones will never destroy you but thinking good is thinks about the other person who hurts you and the bad ones is thinking just about yourself and this is more tempting because you want a satisfaction and you want that right now. 

How the temptation works?

* First, we are aware of the matter and you are feeling like you could let yourself go.

* Quite far away to fix those feelings, you decide not pay too much attention.

* Since you didn't fix that problem, those bad feelings come to you again and this time you like them and start to imagine what kind of things you would do to that person that hurt you all day long.

* Now those feelings consumed you and those feelings are stronger than you, you can’t stop them and you start to regret.

If you wouldn’t desire to get revenge, you wouldn’t go so far in the first place and that happened just because you wanted. “I didn’t want to. It was born without I notice!” Of course, it did! We cannot do the right things first for we have a sinful heart since the very first moment we sinned in the Paradise. Now, we have to fight against those feelings every day.  But don’t worry, because the temptation and the exits way are linked. Just you can decide what to do in every single minute. The Holy Bible helps me every day to tie those feelings up, but of course, it can't do that always or I would be a perfect human being. But can you imagine what I would do without that Holy Word? I would be lost because I choose to do the wrong choices even when I know they are a bad thing too many times, but I did freely, I could have chosen don’t do it, but I did it and that happened just because I wanted to do it. My hidden desire.  

At the end, egoism is not another thing but worship ourselves, always ourselves, bend the spotlight to us and being in the centre of the stage. We don’t have time to think about the feelings of the people or share the stage. Pride. Because of it, too many matrimonies are broken, parents and children don’t talk to each other and such. Pride is supported by justification. How?

* I deny my personal guilt: A pride person never sins and they always do the right things, so there’s no reason for asking for forgiveness.  

* Make their bad choice smaller and weaken it just for not take the responsibility and say to us excuses like: It was a mistake, a coincidence, a good lie, he makes me… those are just more and more excuses, another way to disguise the wrong choice we did and not take the responsibility for our deeds. Pride doesn’t let to see how hurt we did even to the person we love the most. 

* To hide our mistake. Self-sufficiency is linked with the pride. We want to avoid the embarrassing in front of the people and once more time, we don’t want the people to change their good thinking about us. Well, if you did well, why you shut your mouth up now?  

Nobody is more than anyone and everybody has the same piece to sow throughout our lives.

Be careful with what you want to sow on it, perhaps tomorrow you may harvest things you don’t like.


I hope I could help you in too many ways.